Sunday, May 31, 2015

Sexual Attraction...Twice?

When I was younger I met a guy...that'll be his name for this post...Guy.

Guy and I met in grade 7 and we clicked. We would hang out at recess and lunch times. In grade 8  we just always wanted to be around each other.

I had no idea what this strange pull was, I would just always want to be around him. I had a boyfriend at the time and he didn't get along with Guy but he went to a different school. I would want to tell Guy about my day and would want to hug him when I saw him, we'd talk a long time on the phone.

Then I graduated and went to the high school that was closer to my house and I didn't get to see Guy as much because he was across town. Which in those days may as well been in another city altogether.

In grade 10, I had some issues. I ended up in a 12 step program. I showed up all nervous to this Alateen meeting and there he was. Guy saw me and his face lit up and he practically pounced on me, and I on him.

We hadn't really ever dated, never had sex...but we had made out a few times. It was more about the just wanting to be near him.

So I was way more willing to go to these meetings on a weekly basis, moreso because he was there. He was there for another reason, his was a family issue not his own.

We stood there hugging for what felt like forever, not saying a word. The person heading up the meetings told us that we could go in another room to catch up. So we did...

We walked into the other room, closed the door and looked at each other for a moment before we just hugged again and started kissing.

I hadn't felt so relaxed in a long time.

We lost touch again after a couple of years. Found each other again via the webs. Haven't had a chance to meet up in person before losing touch again.

He had been the only person  in my life that I could quickly forgive, sit comfortably in absolute silence with, felt a draw to be near him, wanted to be touching him when near him, could be silly with or completely serious with, cuddle for hours with...
Until recently I thought he was the only one I would feel that way with...

That changed. The situation is different this time though insofar as I think it's completely one sided.

I'm the one who feels this draw to this guy, that when we're together I want to be touching him, that I feel like I can just sit in silence with him or we could talk about anything...

It's a bit more adult too insofar as I really want to rip his clothes off every time I see him. I felt that way with Guy too, even though it never happened, but I just put it off to teenage hormones.
However with it happening with this other guy now too, it makes me wonder.

I don't know what to do about it.

Doubt he would enjoy me just ripping his clothes off each time I see him.

Because as much as guys say they want the chick from the porns...I think sexually aggressive women actually scare them.

Oh well.

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