And How Was Your Friday?!

I get a call yesterday from the oldest's dad... "Have you heard from him?" to which I reply .."Um no..." he's calling from his cell phone on the bus and I can hear him mutter before he says "I'm gonna fucking kill him. He's not at home, I just got off the phone with your mother, he wasn't there when she went to pick him up."

Well that was like a splash of cold water... "So what are you telling me? You don't know where our son is?!"

Here I sat at my tiny apartment another city away with no car finding out that it's possible that no one has seen my son for at least 3 hours.

There was a system we had set up all summer. If his dad had to work he would check in with my mom at just after 1pm. But the night before he had slept at his friends house, he was supposed to call me before noon, be home by 4pm when my mom was picking him up to come.

Well I thought nothing of him not calling because sometimes he just forgets that, but I never for a million years would think that he would not be at home for when my mom got there to pick him up. He knows better then that.

So the ex tells me he'll call me back as soon as he gets home and sees if he's somewhere in their housing complex at a friends house.

Well while he's doing that.. I make my own phone call to calm my nerves...

So I'm on the phone with my friend, when he calls back... He's at home and checked around and went to the friends house. Seems the manchild left at 2pm with another of his friends... ok but now it's about 5:30pm or so.

So my mom and my ex start scouring the countryside... parks, hangouts, driving up and down the roads... he'll call me back when he finds out anything...

Thank the gods for call waiting... I go back to my friend who is getting constant updates... and here I sit... in my tiny apartment with no car... useless.

It goes back and forth between my friend and my ex... for... hours!

I text my sister - You still at the carnival? - They still can't find him. - She calls me. Friend holds... again.

Now I remember what it was like doing the telemarketing job. Sis thinks of a couple of places to check. I hang up with her, and grab my cell phone to call mom and suggest a couple of places to her to look and I get... the voice.

'We've got him. I'm bringing him there.'

She used that voice, the mother voice that no matter how old you are you feel about 3 inches tall and 10 years old. I just said ok and hung up.

That was at 8 something pm. That they had finally found him. He was three doors down at a friend of his friends, in the basement playing video games.

The ex by this point was so angry he wanted to ... and I quote "I want to smash your face into this wall so bad right now!" ... yep he said that too him.

So I went outside and was waiting on the stairs... still on the phone with the friend... the ex calls me and tells me all that happened and that mom was on her way with him.
Go back to friend after telling the ex to go have a stiff drink and relax now. And start to tell her what the ex just said and the phone beeps it's my mom. So I go back to the friend after talking to mom for a second. And let her know that I have to go as mom is literally pulling into my driveway.

So after hugging my mom, I grab him and hug him tight. I told him that I love him and let him know that we'll talk tomorrow (today), since he got a dose of his dad and grandma already I figured I'd let things cool down a bit before talking to him. He'd be more receptive that way.

Went over and said thanks to my mom and gave her a hug.

So after a little while and a phone for some take away, I grab the oldest and decide we're going for a walk to the store... on the way I got him talking... asking him about what my mom and his dad said to him. He shrugged and said "To not do it again." so yeah I need to talk to him still and make him understand why.

All he remembered of his dad saying was the quote above... yeah that's not helpful. He says that he understood what grandma was saying but that he didn't remember too much of it. She tends to cry a bit when shit like this happens. But I do recall her telling me she wanted to beat his ass as well, so wouldn't be surprised if that was in there.

So I think I'll give it a go a bit later.

I thank the gods every time I have to sit and talk with the kids about their actions and the consequences of them...

However, the ex had said that maybe if he's going to be like this, after I move maybe the oldest should come and live with me. Thats not exactly how I wanted that to happen but...